It’s Okay to Say No

by | 15 March 2019 | Life | 13 comments

I don’t know about you, but I really don’t like saying no.

No matter what it is — writing related, life related, anything — if someone asks me if I could help them, my automatic response is to say yes, look at my schedule, and think “oh no.”


Is this something I struggle with?

Oh yes.


Despite how hard it can be to say no, over-committing yourself is never good.

For example: a few weeks ago, our rooster tried to eat a mouse. The mouse was far too big for it’s mouth (beak?), and the rooster had literally bitten (pecked?) off more than he could chew (or swallow — whatever it is that chickens do when eating food 😅). Long story short, we had to pull the mouse out of his mouth because he was choking and going purple.

He’s perfectly fine now, but let that be a warning to you.

a) don’t over-commit yourself

b) don’t eat mice if you’re a chicken


It’s okay to say no sometimes. Sometimes it’s best to say no. If you’re going to be super busy and cramming this task in frantically, you’re not going to do it as well as you normally could and it won’t be good for you or for whomever you’re doing it for.


This is probably going to end up as a super short post. Maybe that’s because I’m saying no to the half of me who wants to make this a longer ‘more worthwhile’ blog post, so I can save my sanity and work on other things today as well. 😛


Chat with me, friend! Do you struggle to say no? What have you been doing in life recently?

Jane Maree

Jane Maree

Jane Maree is an Australian writer, adventurer at heart, beloved daughter of the King of Kings, and believer in at least six impossible things before breakfast. Raised on fairy tales, scraped knees, and makeshift swords, she has yet to outgrow any of them. In her day job, Jane teaches music and freelances as an editor, but by night she crafts daring stories of broken heroes overcoming extraordinary odds.


  1. Merie Shen

    YES! I seriously have lots of problems saying no. I really hate disappointing someone I’d like to help out, but sometimes there are other ways to go. 🙂 Great post, as usual.

  2. Evelyn

    Ah! An informative post… not just for me, but my chicken too! 😉

    Yes, this is a lesson I have learned over and over again. 😛

    Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  3. Sam Kowal

    Here are a free pile of no’s for anyone who would like to take one. 😀 Or you can say no, you’re good thank you XD.

    NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.

    • Evelyn Kelly

      Oooh, do you mind if I steal some of these? 😉

      • Sam Kowal


        • Evelyn Kelly

          I’ll take that!

  4. Nicole Dust

    Ugh, yes, this is definitely me. #overcommitter Thanks for this reminder!

  5. Paul Farrelly

    What guidelines are there to help you determine if you are saying, ‘No’ for a greater good or, ‘No’ for selfish reasons?

  6. Kendra Lynne @ The Wanderling

    My dad could use this reminder. 😛 He’s a farmer and sometimes takes on a little too much work that he could ask other people to do, but hey, he’s an ESTJ. That’s how they do things. XD

    I’m quite a bit more laid-back than he is, since I’m an INFP, but I still sometimes have a hard to time saying no because I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings. 😮

    I loved the example using the rooster… my example would be with my 13-month-old (I almost said ‘year old’, lol) sister who has the habit of cramming wayyy too much food in her mouth. XP

  7. J.A.Penrose.

    Oh my word. The rooster. That crazy rooster. xD
    Also, very good post. As hard as it is.

  8. S.F. Dekreel

    You bet I have trouble. It’s not easy being impulsive — not to mention gullible. 😛

    What I really want to know is: Is the mouse okay?? (Also, why would a rooster try to eat a MOUSE of all objects? O.O )

  9. Mem

    THAT ROOSTER. OMW. I feel bad for it…but I also kind of wish you caught it on video…XD XD XD

    And yes; this is an excellent post. *nods* 😀

  10. Quinley

    This is an awesome post, Jane. I too have trouble saying “no”, also I’ll follow your advice about not eating any mice. XD

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